Continuing the pregnancy and adoption

Choosing adoption means carrying the pregnancy to term and placing the baby with adoptive parents. This is a significant and selfless decision that some people make when they feel unable to parent but want to give their child a life with a family who is ready.

Understanding adoption

Adoption is a legal process where parental rights are transferred from the birth parent(s) to adoptive parents. In Singapore, this process is regulated to protect both the child and all parties involved.

Some important things to know:

  • Adoption is permanent. Once finalized, it cannot be reversed
  • Consent cannot be given until after the baby is born
  • The father's consent is generally required unless specific circumstances apply
  • You can receive counselling support throughout the process

How adoption works in Singapore

1. Counselling and decision-making

Before any steps are taken, you'll work with a social worker or counsellor to ensure this is the right decision for you. You can explore your feelings and circumstances without any obligation.

2. Working with an accredited agency

Adoptions in Singapore should go through proper channels. TOUCH Adoption Services and MSF-accredited agencies can facilitate the process legally and ethically.

3. Matching with adoptive parents

Adoptive parents are carefully screened and assessed. Depending on the arrangement, you may have some say in the type of family you'd like for your child.

4. After birth

Consent can only be given after the baby is born. There is typically a waiting period to ensure you're certain. During this time, the baby may be in temporary foster care.

5. Legal finalization

The adoption is finalized through the Family Justice Courts. Once granted, the adoptive parents become the child's legal parents.

Emotional considerations

Choosing adoption can bring up complex emotions - before, during, and after. It's normal to experience:

  • Grief and loss, even when you feel it's the right choice
  • Relief that your child will have opportunities you couldn't provide
  • Uncertainty or second thoughts, which are completely normal
  • A sense of peace knowing your child is with a loving family

Post-adoption counselling is available and recommended. Many birth parents find it helpful to process their feelings with professional support.

Key resources for adoption in Singapore

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